Surviving A Job You Hate

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It is every person’s dream to have a fulfilling career, but what happens when you find yourself stuck in a job you hate? Well, do not despair. Many a person has gone through this and come out alive, and you can too. Here are some useful tips.

1) Have some good coping skills: Do not let your work consume you. Even if you work 40 to 60 hours a week, find some hobbies outside your job to take the stress away. When you leave your job, leave everything work related at the job site. On your drive home DO NOT use your useful mental space thinking about your pointless job or your annoying boss. Never bring work home!!

2) Use vacation days wisely: Use up every last vacation day you have. Your body will thank you for this. Plan a fun trip with your friends, your spouse or even go alone. Spend the entire year dreaming about your ideal vacay and make it happen. If money is tight, find fun economical things to do locally.

3) Find a venting buddy: Some of us love to decompress after work by telling others what a crappy day we have had. Yes, this contradicts my first tip, but if I do not vent off my frustration to a friend, I might go mad. Limit your venting sessions though. Don’t spend an hour a day talking about the job you hate. Stick to maybe 10 minutes day. After you’re done whining and complaining, put the day behind you and move on.

4) Find a new job: If all else fails, put yourself back on the market. Most people do not have the luxury of quitting on the spot, so make an exit strategy. Slowly re-do your resume, browse websites to see what’s out there. Go for interviews to get the hang of the hiring process. Ask around to see if someone you know is hiring or knows someone who is hiring. Never let a job you hate eat away at your soul piece by piece.

5) Positive affirmations: While you are still looking for your dream job, let your work space be a zen area. Even if you work in a cubicle, write out positive quotes on sticky notes and plaster them all over your work area. I like to listen to positive music on bad days to get my thinking back on track. Let’s be honest, if you spend majority of your time thinking negatively, this will translate to negative moods and even eventually bad physical health. Do not let your job steal your joy. Hang around positive coworkers who can bring light to your day. Say positive things to yourself to get you through the work day.

I hope the above tips helped. How do you survive a job you hate? Comment below and hit the like button.

Have a great Monday!!

Positive Thinking Momma

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Creating Goals For Yourself

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Hello boys and girls,

Today I was just thinking about how many hopes and dreams I have. I mean I have goals for myself, goals for my spouse and goals for my kids. To further break those goals down, I have divided my personal goals into career goals, spiritual goals, fitness goals, spousal goals and relational goals. I have my goals firmly taped up to my closet wall so that I can look at them every day. I learned this technique from one of my college professors. He asked us, upon graduation, to write out our 10-year and 5-year plans as well as to detail how we were supposed to achieve them. So it’s not just enough to say: “I will be a successful therapist in 10 years.” You actually have to define success in measurable terms. Where do you see yourself working? How much money do you wish to make? What type of work will you be doing? What do you need to do this month to climb up that goal ladder? And the list goes on and on.

Ever since I wrote out my goals and stuck them to my wall, I have found that my drive to reach them has increased tenfold. I am working harder than ever because I do not want to disappoint myself. For my workout goals, I first detailed how I want to look.  I know how many days a week, as well as the duration for which I shall be working out. I have my workouts on a calendar and I love to mark them off daily. Putting things on a schedule is my way of sealing the deal. If I write something down on my calendar, I have to do it.  I get a kick out of crossing things off my lists.

Writing out all my goals seems to work for me. For my career goals, I wrote out what I want to accomplish ten years from now, then I also wrote out what I want to accomplish by December 2014, and on top of that, I set goals for myself month by month. This makes my 10-year plan less scary and more easily attainable. Some people are much more creative and make vision boards for themselves. I’m not at that level yet, so just writing my goals down in plain black ink appears to be working in my favor.

The cherry on the cake is finding SUPPORT. Find one or two trusty sidekicks who can help you reach your goal. If you know people who will encourage you when you want to give up, then put them on your team. Every person needs cheerleaders to whom they can vent when times are hard and who will smile at them when they achieve something small or something big.

How do you plan out your goals for yourself? What method works for you?

 

As usual, comment below and hit the like button.

Thinking Momma

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Achieving Your Dreams

Hello Everyone!!

I am someone who believes that women can have it all. I believe you can have the husband, the kids, the great career, great friends and wrap them all with a pretty pink bow. Yes, I do believe the above indeed. Now,  I also believe that to achieve all these great things, you must plan and you must be ready to lose sleep. Having it all involves making lots of sacrifices and keeping your eyes on the prize even when your body is telling you that’s it’s too tired. I believe with tons of hard work and dedication, you can make it to the top-regardless of what that means to you. Your idea of ‘the top’ might be different from another person’s idea of ‘the top’ and that is okay.

I have learned to develop tunnel vision and a filter for ears. I know exactly what I want and where it is I want to go in life and regardless of what people around me say, I will push until I get there. When people try to discourage me, I simply filter out the negativity and focus on things that can build me up.  I believe that everyone is born with a huge capacity to do a lot. Sometimes we do not tap into our innate resources. Dare to dream. Dare to see the world as bigger than your surroundings. Dare to jump out there and take the world by storm.

I am a firm believer in planning. It all starts with charting out your dreams. Sit for a second, or for an entire weekend, and let your mind wander. What goals do you want to accomplish? If you have stopped dreaming, just indulge for a second. Then write them down. After writing the dreams down, try to figure out- step by step- how to reach your goal. Pick one goal at a time so you do not get overwhelmed. Start with the smallest goal, then work your way up.  People accomplish goals all the time. People rise up from adversity all the time. Why can’t you be one of those people? No one is saying it will be easy, but that is what separates the mediocre from the exceptional.

Dare to dream. The world is at your feet waiting to be tapped. Do not waste a single day wishing you could accomplish something big. Do it now.

Inspired Thinking Momma